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Jim Stroup

Steve - wonderful, and as always, thought-provoking ideas. #4 is very well-expressed, the sort of thing that will help it stay with people and guide and discipline their actions and enhance their effectiveness. #7 is right on the money, also. It's like academics debating from their credentials - if your argument doesn't do the job, it's the wrong time to start showing off your presumed qualifications.

Taking an assist from your last item - a truly discerning list of wisdom. Thank you for it.

peter vajda

Good stuff, Steve, and thank you. Some of my thoughts from my experiences:

.Tell people what they need to hear (the truth), not what they want to hear.
.Take an interest in people and they'll take an interest in you.
.Remember what happened to the (skyscraper) window washer who stepped back to admire his own work (ego).
.(#3) and...speak with the voice of God, listen with the ears of God.
. (#6) the stimulus for stress and upset may be outside, but the cause is always inside (i.e, me and my reactivity)
. risk moving out of my intellectual and emotional zip codes; I might be pleasantly surprised
. be the change I want to see (Ghandi)
. give folks the benefit of the doubt.
. know that everyone is in Chapter Three of their life and no one knows what transpired in Chapters 1 and 2...so, don't assume I know what "makes people tick."
. resolving conflict works best when I'm focused on what I want for the relationship, not solely for me.
. honesty....early and often

Steve Roesler

When you started this off with your post yesterday, Jim, I thought, "Well, that looks to me like all the important stuff." Then you got me thinking about what was underneath of many of those learnings. It was really fascinating to see where they led.

I'm looking forward to the cumulative product when people have had a chance to weigh in.

Steve Roesler

Peter:

You said: "'know that everyone is in Chapter Three of their life and no one knows what transpired in Chapters 1 and 2...so, don't assume I know what "makes people tick."

That's the one that that really sticks with me. May I forward these to Jim if he hasn't already copied them?

peter vajda

Sure Steve, feel free...

Jim Stroup

Hi Steve and Peter,

I've seen Peter's contributions - they're great. I especially like the skyscraper and book chapter analogies, and there's a lot of wisdom in the advice to focus on the relationship, and not solely on self-interest. Thanks, Peter, for all of those. Thanks, Steve; I've copied them.

peter vajda

You're welcome, Jim. I'm grateful I could contribute.

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Great list! My favorite is the top one. Thanks for sharing!

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Great list! My favorite is the top one. Thanks for sharing!

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11. Do on to others as they would expect you to do on to them.

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Thanks for the great points. I greatly appreciate all the tips.

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Some good points mentioned here and I appreciate it. Really indeed useful.

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