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Hi Steve, do you know me personally? Just kidding. Once I read this post, I wanted to ask you this question. Setbacks are lessons and not the end for me. I touched the death line in 2002 and came back to normal (more than) life with so much spirit and enthusiasm. Yes, you are correct. I just prayed to God, either take me, or else make to stand on my own leg. He listened to my prayers. This second birth is quite interesting  than before. Started valuing petty things which I missed earlier. Wonderful post. Tks. Viji

Steve Roesler

Thanks for sharing that, Viji. Your experience is certainly a deep and meaningful one that can offer inspiration for all of us.


Great post Steve. I always like to simplify and sum things up in a nice, neat little package so I'll just say:

"Whatever doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger!"

Steve Roesler

Hey, Shane, thanks for the succinct quote.

Let's hope that we have more time to work on the "makes you stronger" part!


Mike Wagner

And my mind returns to the Old Testament again with the phrase, "it was good that I was afflicted."

At least that is what I thought when I read "recognize that seeing it (struggle) all the way through will present you with a new strength."

Thanks for enlarging a strong conversation.

Keep creating,

Ellen Weber

Great post Steve - thanks. What do you say to people who tell you they are unsure what their talent is, so have no idea where to start? Thoughts?


Hi, Ellen,

Well, your scenario is the case more often than not. People aren't sure and don't know where to begin.

I use a proprietary instrument that gets at people's talents in communication, relating, and functional categories. There are 54 possibilities--most people have 5-7 areas that would be considered "talents" or giftedness.

But that doesn't really get at the heart of your question, "Where to start?"

What we all want when faced with a dilemma is a genuine sense of hope and related action. To get folks mobilized, I now do two things at the outset:

1. Have the person look at a a list of job descriptions and tell me the 10 that they would never get involved with on a bet. That gives me a good hint at where their talents and passions don't lie. And it's often easier to quickly identify what we don't want before we know what we do want.

2. Then they are asked to write their ten most "enjoyable" experiences in life, beginning in their teen years. These provide the basis for an autobiographical interview that gets at underlying themes and how they connect to show a pattern that combines high degree of competence with high degree of satisfaction.

This is a useful starting place that provides a jumping off point for more in-depth assessment and discussion. Most importantly, it gets people moving in a meaningful direction at a time when they can be feeling bogged down.

Now there's a long answer to a very short question!

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