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Beth Robinson

I like #8 because I think I'm living it.

For the online MBA program I am in the organizers grouped us in teams that we would work with for two years. The program kicked off with a week-long residency and we were complimented after our case study presentation that it was clear that we all understood and could support the decision that we had given. But I'm not sure I'd call us the five of us a team, even though we fit one of the technical definitions because we are all working toward a common goal.

When we took Organizational Behavior the professor gave us an article on team building and an ungraded assignment to do things like come up with a name, a reward for getting things done, a charter mission, discuss how we expected to collaborate, etcetera. We pretty much ignored it.

Different individuals take initiative at different points depending on our separate career and personal schedules, but we all do it, without much planning. We contribute ideas and can discuss them and disagree with each other. The work gets done on time and mostly receives As.

There's no special team cohesiveness. It just works.

Dean Fuhrman

Steve -

Great list.

Help me out on this one: "3. If you look at people through your own eyes you'll judge them for who you think they are. If you look at them through God's eyes you'll see them for who they can become."

I can't quite lay my finger on it. It seems that in both "looks" there is some projection of what I might like a person to be. The second being potentially as dangerous as the first possibly. I think I know what you are driving at ... we all have potential to be unlocked in some form or fashion. Yet if I don't collaborate with the other person on what it is I might see and seek to see what they see, I am likely no better off than if I just judged them in the first place. Maybe I am not looking at this right.

Nos. 5 and 8 resonate well in my experience.


Steve Roesler


Yep. Your example works--just like the group.

It sounds as if you've got a group of mature people who are clear about what they need to do, how to do it, and who can do what. Doesn't get much better than that. It's also a little easier to deal with when you've got a short time frame such as the course or a short-term project at work.

But the point here is: Don't force the "teamy" thing. Lots of people have preconceived notions of how people are supposed to think, feel, and act if they are a "real team." That'll kill ya.

Look at the results...

(Howz the MBA coming?)

Steve Roesler


You popped in the perfect moment. I was going to ask if 100 degrees in the desert is really a whole lot better than 100 degrees in New Jersey? So much for meaning-of-life stuff.

Always interesting to know what resonates with people who have a solid experience base.

As for #3: That's a reflection of my world view based upon faith in a Creator. If one arrives at that decision, then one realizes that there is more to one's self--and others--than immediately meets the eye.

Hope the Southwest is a place of contentment for you. Thanks for weighing in.

Johny Garner

I really appreciate the nuts-and-bolts wisdom you share day to day. But today's somewhat more "big picture" insights were a cut above. #s 3 and 6 particularly resonated with me. How different workplaces would be if we took those to heart!

Frode H.

Hi Steve.
First of all, thank you for the quote.

Regarding #5. Charge what you are worth. If you don't, resent your employer or client even though you decided to take the assignment.

I can't get myself to agree on this. If you decide to put your effort into something , I think it is too late to back out. If you already took the assignment, give it your best effort. I can not see how this tip can help out? Do I misunderstand?


Hi Steve-

Great list! #9 is so true. My husband and I just had a conversation yesterday about past managers and what we had learned from them. You can learn what to do and what NOT to do by following and keeping an open mind. It will make you stronger leader in all aspects of your career and life.


"To find another's voice, follow your own voice, wait until that voice becomes a private ear listening to another."

David Whyte, Start Close In

Does he mean that if he follow our interests we will be able to respect other people's interests more easily?

And if we work the other way around, we will not necessarily hear other people or feel appreciated?

Steve Roesler

Hey, Johnny, the encouragement is much appreciated. And it's always useful to know specifically touches people at a given moment.

Hope to see you again soon...

Steve Roesler

Hi, Frode,

Perhaps there is some misunderstanding.

The point is this: When one takes an assignment for a lot less compensation than it is worth, eventually there is resentment. One may still put forth effort because of good character; but eventually the disequlibrium will cause problems.

I hope that helps.

Steve Roesler


Pleased to know that this was related to a conversation at home.

I was thinking about this again and realized that during certain times in my life--when I chose to be stubborn and not follow someone's lead--I really missed some good opportunities to learn.

If everyone is waiting around for an appointment to head honcho, it's going to be difficult sailing without the benefit of having followed others, both good and bad.

Steve Roesler


I've got to say that I haven't the slightest idea what the heck that means!

Frode H.

Hi Steve.
I had to look up the word "resent" - I could be remembering a meaning of a word wrong, but no. To me, resent is almost equal to hate.

I would write:
5. Charge what you are worth, If you didn’t, don’t resent your employer or client. You decided to take the assignment.

If you for some reason charge to little, and start to resent your client, you will probably be out of business within weeks? Your income will be to low, the rumors is that you resent your clients...Sounds like a bad way of doing business.

Steve Roesler


This is one of those words where the tiny differences in meaning make a big difference:-)

Resent isn't the same as hate (although it can be allowed to build up to it over time).

Anyway, we reached the point: It is a bad way to do business.


I see #5 has gotten a few people interested. I have to say, I still don´t get it. If you didn´t charge what you´re worth, it was your choice, not your client´s. So why would you resent them? For not realizing that you were worth more, and offering a higher sum up front?

Steve Roesler

Hi, Mario,

No, the issue isn't resenting them at all.

It ends up that you are really angry with yourself and resent the situation that you put yourself in.

I see this all the time with freelancers who undersell their services because they think that's the only way they'll get work; then they discover that they aren't getting paid what the project is worth (which they knew before they quoted it).

It's a matter of accurately judging your value, charging accordingly, and walking away if the exchange is not a fair one.

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